Lately I am trying to get over with social media as much as I can. I deleted WhatsApp, Instagram, and twitter to get back to what really matters in my day to day life. To get back the focus that I had lost so gradually that I didn’t even realise I was a slave of my mobile, day in and day out, as many of us are.
My dependency on mobile has not reduced to a great extent, but it has helped me prioritise what I see, what I respond to and what I dwell into. Facebook is still something I haven’t been able to rescue myself from, but then we do need a little connection with the world to entertain ourselves, if nothing else. Not to say these media are useless, they are of immense help to small businesses, to actors and promising actors and to students who wouldn’t really invest their time in studies, social media’s existence is only an escape route.
So I have become this recluse kind of a person who is too lazy to even wish just about everyone on their birthdays on fb. I am sure wishes on my bday will also come down drastically! But now it seems very childish to wish a person whom I haven’t spoken in ages and have no intention of making any effort to meet and greet! I do still like pics and leave a comment or two. But restraining myself from any sort of indulgence that will require a second look at the notifications. Fewer the better.
Staying away from WhatsApp seemed tough before I delted it altogether. But I sailed through it. My family and close friends sailed through and helped me get back my focus. I am so thankful to them that instead of pushing me away, they accepted the fact that I am more difficult to reach than almost everyone on this earth. Now a days a phone call even from family members happens over WhatsApp, so I am actually pretty happy that this dependency is over. Now we call for real, I feel responsible for calling them , previously messages were sufficient. I mail my family the photos of my son every now and then to keep the grandparents informed of their grandchild, and it feels special.
I totally recommend deleting the app for a bit and breathe in the fresh air of fewer notifications, more family and more you!
6 years back My friend had a well paying job when She could splurge on her husband and of course on their families. She never thought twice before buying gifts for loved ones because She didn’t know any other way. She believed that we are young so our buying capacities are only going to increase with time.
Then She decided to quit her job to be with hubby and her world turned turtle. Slowly She realised he didn’t want to give her any money for any spending and she also didn’t mind using up most of her savings in the next 5 years. Last year She realised she wasn’t left with much if one day she needed money for an emergency. When she asked him to start giving money every month, he panicked and couldn’t oblige. All his savings are in his name and she has few saved up in government savings, all from the days she was earning.
he never cared where the toys and expensive clothes and other stuff is coming for his own child, as long as it’s not his bank balance that is getting disturbed. After such a long period of bullying into not asking for money for the fear of giving an account of her spendings, she is scared deep in her conscience to even mention her requirements. Whenever she has, she met with resentment and lot of bull shit. Her confidence on herself is gone down drastically. She cannot buy stuff for her parents, who showered her husband with many gifts during and after marriage.
A girl who never saw adversity is facing the worst even when her husband is earning well enough to keep her light shining. She realised this when she saw the ladies around her who keep shopping for new dresses, new artefacts for their houses and also go for frequent outings with their friends and husband. This friend doesn’t get to go on dinner dates or a general outing for a coffee. Every expensive toy is seen with an auditing eye but thankfully the rationing isn’t much for the child.
Now she is gearing up for a new phase in her life, and I really wish she succeeds and he can realise he lost a gem because all he bothered about was money.
Yesterday 12th April, my son started his 4th school with Class 1. To my surprise, I dropped him and came back home without any anxiety that I have faced in every first day of the last three years of his schooling – mainly because he has joined a new school in every new session!
Here I was completely complacent that he will adjust well, thankfully he did come back super happy and thrilled. He played a lot there, had his friend from previous school in the same section as his so delight was doubled.
After a couple of months he will again move to a new school as we get posted to a new location and am hopeful this time we get a city that has more exposure for my curious child. Also I can start working again and be confident of a secure life ahead!
So, I am very happy with the present state of my son’s schooling, hoping it to be a good learning place for the next couple of months.
Cheers to a rocking start!
Posted in Child Psychology, Children, human behaviour, kids, Parenting, school
Tagged anxiety, Art, Enjoyable, friends, fun, Learning, love, new school, Primary class, Primary education, School life, Schooling, Thrilling
Sometimes I wonder what wrong I might have done to get whatever negativity I get from few people around. Sometimes the water is above the nose when you need to make a hole to drain it all out.
Sometimes one needs to stand for oneself to protect the flaggling self respect. And this is sometimes the most difficult part of life. Taking a stand and sticking to it is another story.
Life has so many challenges that solving them becomes a mystery in itself. Right now am going through a very tough phase where am getting punched from all corners. Hope this phase gets over very soon.
Today I wanted to write about my son’s new beginning – primary schooling. Alas! I am in no mood to pen down anything pleasant.
Finally we have reached a stage where my son can figure out the entire construction on it’s own and he is quite a bit performance driven.
So today when he was attempting something for the first time with not much of a help in the manual, I appreciated his efforts. He was quick to reply – no am not working very hard or no I have not done a great job!! Well, I am happy that he is not full of himself which is easier at this age and also a little conscious that he shouldn’t under appreciate or estimate his capabilities as we go. Anyway, its always a delight to watch him reach a milestone.
Here is the pic of the helicopter that I thought would be tough considering very little was shown in instruction booklet:
This one was definitely unexpected, also I have stopped mapping the milestones on internet, its more from my own observations of his growth and inquisitiveness that keeps changing and that gives me indications of what and when I can try out new things.
One thing is am a little proud and also happy that he is catching up well on time. Making buildings and his own make believe stuff has been on for years – literally 3years! That’s a long time for a toddler to preschooler. 😉
Let’s see what’s new is in hold for me to discover with him! Muaah to all the kids out there!
Posted in Children, hobbies, holiday, kids, Kids Activities, Parenting, Relationships
Tagged Activities, Blocks, Construction, Development, growth, Helicopter, holiday, kids, Lego, milestone, Sets