Lego craziness!

On my son’s 6th bday we got him the Lego Medium Creative Brick, Multi Color as we were buying the singular kits of iron man or fire extinguisher or some other smaller versions for such huge prices.

This box has been a constant entertainer for me too. How I love making just about anything and impressing my son 😉 lately he is so glued to the Lego Fire Ladder Truck, Multi Color as well as Iron man and Loki set which he keeps modifying whenever he gets hold of it.

Our next target is to get the entire fire station in place and make a decent size lego city with the medium box and other kits. I used to think my son wouldn’t really get back to lego but thank goodness he loves it as much as I do!

Here is the link to both the products we love so much!

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The bets we take!

I wonder how we put our bets on certain things and events in life and that becomes the centre of our survival.

I am pursuing something these days that will totally define my future, and yes its  a bet because I don’t even know whether things will turn in my favour. The fun lies in its mysteries, in preparing for all that I want to happen and simply continuing my efforts to achieve what I want to.

I know it would be a major heartbreak if events turn upside down, but then maybe there is another plan. I hope am able to think this straight if things do turn for the worse or not my way.

When your little son is all geared up for a life you have promised to him, you bet the stakes are pretty high. So fingers crossed, I hope I write next with further hopes and not rejection. And if there is rejection, I hope I write with some optimism for something other than but equally motivating to keep going!

Swinging between hope and despair…! Well, that’s life! I am happy I have hope!

Ciao!

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Deriving Happiness

When we face a challenge in life, we are told to stay strong, come what may. Especially women have to deal with the stay strong phrase. For men, its taken for granted. But no one quantifies how much is enough! When do you give up on the strength and behave like a human.

of course dwelling on problems doesn’t help anyone, increases it on more ways than one. There should be a place where you an go and blurt out all the frustration and get back your peppy self. Sometimes we don’t want to discuss anything with anyone, sometimes we want but the one who could give an ear and a shoulder isn’t available. And sometimes, its just too much to handle with a response.

I did hear about such organizations who just listen to you, that helps subside depression.

When I read the mythical scriptures and their derivations, it surprises me how we run towards money, fame and power. Instead of moving in, we try and move out for happiness. Again, that’s easier said than done.

Even sages have domesticated for their wives and children and left it only when the responsibilities were over. They knew they have to give it all up once the children are on their own, and their focus didn’t dwindle.

DO we have such a focus. And yet, do we need such a retirement from the world when we can still contribute. Ofcourse we should continue to be the mentor, counsel and guide just like the sages did as they taught the younger family members. Well, that’s how I derive the value out of the readings. I see Bill Gates as such a modern sage. He is into philanthropy, engages the young in innovations and has decided not to serve his entire wealth on a platter.

I am sure even Bill Gates has his share of problems and worries. Still, he continues with his efforts towards a better world. This makes me believe that to really serve the country, people, society, we must continue our efforts nevertheless. Our problems are not getting over until the last day, something will always be at the back of our mind to resolve and be sad about.

As they say, choose your battles. So we must. Happiness becomes relative at every moment.

Signing off!

Well, before I do, let me share my recent reads here:

Pashu – stories about how animals are significant in Indian Mythology. Very much engaging for children.

Sita – Ramayana from her eyes, moreso how she felt throughout the journey. This isn’t all about Sita though, it tells a lot more. Its a revision of what we know and introduction to what we don’t. The latter forms a big part of my reads as I discover a lot of philosophical views that match with mine, resonate with how I would interpret situations.

Writer: Devdutt Pattnayak

The links below are for Amazon.in:

                   

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The Amazing feeling called childhood!

Today, as always I went swimming with my son and asked him to practice well for the upcoming championship in his school.

Like any other child, he first plays in the pool for 15-20 minutes and then joins me (after a lot of reminders) for a session. Today he swam the fastest for his usual pace and was so thrilled that he had beaten himself in the race!

He was super happy to achieve this and exclaimed “I didn’t even know I could do this!”

As if he knows so much already! Such a beautiful expression for a lil grown up, 7 year old! I adore it when he admires his own achievements, and gets motivated to do his best.

Few months back I had put a poster in his room –

“Its Always Seems Impossible Untill Its Done”

I reminded him of this and also that he wrote this for me when I was preparing for an important exam just last month. How his quoting the quote had empowered me and made sure I didn’t give up before it was done!

He totally related to the quote at that moment on our drive back home. I hope he remembers it longer than today and keeps amazing himself with his cute hard work!

 

 

 

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A confused next gen?

As a child, I had really high hopes that when I am grown up, all the gender stereotypes would be over for good, there will be real equality for men and women, boys and girls. Alas! we are trying hard not to do away with it, rather embracing the stereotypes and adding more fuel to the fire.

I see more women working, and yet taking utmost care that the household chores are only their problem, they are earning and yet have nearly no say in decisions at home, they are making sure they go crazy with child care and office work all at the same time, to prove that we have it all! Or just because they don’t want to be a burden because they are working and because child care is primarily a mother’s job (or something like that).

I am also contributing to it. But I didn’t realize when I gave in and forgot about all the dreams I had against this bias even as a child. Now that my son is growing and I see him observing the roles played around by men and women, I fear even his generation wont do away with the biases. In fact, they will not know what to make of a working wife, whether she should be respected for her work, or be looked down upon for being a female. Whether she has any right over her own decisions, or the men must rule at every opportunity.

This isn’t feminism, or even if it sounds like it, so be it. The point is, we are doing grave injustice to our next generation by not mitigating the stereotypes that we are promoting. Women have their demanding jobs and yet they dont hesitate to keep the fasts that demand stringent rules to be followed, they take a back seat in the career when their better half could come forward and make it easier on her shoulders, she still has to tender to her inlaws and be the ideal one even if they have nothing good to say about her juggling all the responsibilities.

All this because women mostly have seen their ideals in their mothers. They have seen them adjusting to the society and keeping mum while performing their duties. Men might be having their share of struggles, keeping up with the egos of society, looking like a feminine personality while in the kitchen or while tending to their own children, and so on. Overall, its the women who face the setbacks, paycuts, and end of it be called the woman behind her successful husband. What about her own aspirations cut short by the people closest to her? Not by saying no, but by not saying yes to her dreams!

I am sure stories are different at many a places, but they are too few to be idolized and do away with the realities.

Its time we rethink our everyday conduct, women should come forward, speak up, the proverbial and literal sit at the table while decisions are made and if she feels neglected, she must speak up and get her dues. End of the day, our next generation is watching us and waiting to replicate it all when they grow into adults – responsible, irresponsible, respectful or otherwise, all depends on how we project ourselves to them, as a couple and as individuals.

Signing off – A very worried mother!!

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Stay put!

Just when you think you are getting closer to achieving your dreams, there are bound to be endless challenges or one challenge so huge that will try its best to pull you down with all its might. The tendency of our hearts is to give into the temptation of fighting out the unimportant, petty stuff or people and distract from the focus that our life needs.

It is in these trying times when we have to stand with ourselves, give positive vibes and make sure that the negative energy doesn’t get the fodder to survive, however much it tries. Its the most difficult thing to do sometimes and that is when you need to understand that these challenges will be lost in transition, will be of least value one week/month/year down the line and then if we would have given up, we will be only left with regret that will be more painful than the challenges that are trying to pull us down.

I think such is life, longer in days and shorter in years as they say. So true! The tough exams in school days took much longer than the entire school life! This is a reminder to myself to continue the focused approach because some situations and the people involved don’t give up on pulling you down to their level and maybe further below! Stay strong , this too shall pass!

Am sure at some point everyone goes through times when they want to get invisible till its over. Alas! That cloak ain’t there in this world, the more we face it, the lesser difficult it becomes. In my case, I need to focus on the goal, rest of the things will automatically go in the faded background!

I wish the best to everyone who is facing a tough situation, you will come out a winner! Believe in yourself and believe in the power of goodness!

Ciao!

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A note to self!

I am trying to do something valuable for myself, something that can redefine my career and my life ahead, not just mine, of all those associated with me. Sometimes, in the hustle bustle of complicated emotions, we forget our path just when its the most important thing to be focused on.

So this is a reminder to myself of how much I have toiled to get to a point where I can make a substantial contribution to my self worth, but at this time I am also facing a lot of distractions which are here to stay. I have to make myself understand that these distractions are not what define my future, my focus on the right thing will. As they say, your thoughts become your action and hence your destiny, I have to take the right action now, stay focused on my work and stop thinking of all that is trying hard to stop me from achieving that I can. Atleast I can give it my best to achieve.

I have to keep reminding myself that nothing that’s distracting me right now will matter one year from now,  but what I must do, will define my life one year from now.

I am sure it happens with most of us to lose the focus, give up on the slightest hint of being a victim, as victimizing is the best way to sympathize with self and then all that remains is regret that I could have done better had I not focused on the unimportant stuff. It could be a disagreement at work or at home. All this passes on and the only thing lost or found is what we do with our time around these tiny moments of distress.

I have to bring back my focus to myself, as this focus affects much more than my present. One thing that helps me often is watching the motivational videos that just remind you what’s important and what’s not! Music too is so helpful to be where I am and shun all the background score that is bothering me. When we worry, it affects us and does nothing, moves nothing, its just us!

Let us not waste our precious little time on unimportant things and people, let us make ourselves important , be a little selfish, and succeed for the greater good around us. If that makes us stay positive and focused and achieve our bests, then yes that’s what is needed. Focus on oneself and be the best form of yourself.

May the force be with you and me!!!

Ciao!

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