As interesting as it gets!

LATELY I WAS thinking that questions of my 5 year old were getting over, only to realise that they are getting deeper and I mostly don’t have good witty answers for him.

Like: why is fan called a fan, why is dog called a dog?

Why are there twins in families?

You chose me in my city of birth?

Papa shaves a lot so he is elder to grandpa??

Now I know what wits end is!! I am gearing up again to answer him a little Intellectually and hope to live up to his expectations !

Suddenly his vocabulary in our native language is getting better and better, thanks to the influence of kids in school. Although I could do away with a few words here and there. Alas! We cant control all factors!

Enjoying the growth path with my lil man…unbelievable how he is growing so fast and out of my warm clutches!!

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Why is Grandma not taller?

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My 5 yr old thinks that since my mom is elder to me she should also be taller than me. He simply refuses to accept that I am taller than his most favorite person on earth.

Today on a short drive to the swimming pool, he offered his theory of why she looks smaller even though she is not. I was super amazed at his finding and his ability to correlate as per his level of reasoning.

So here is what he believes:

“Nani (my mom) has a round face and Arin(my son) also has a round face. When you have a round face, you look smaller and mumma you have an oval face so you look taller. Also, nani is fat so she looks smaller in height but she is not.”

He has been thinking about this for last 20 days since the time we came back from my…

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Magical moments with lil man!

Its amazing how quickly each day passes by and leaves behind some magical moments only if we cared to notice.

Day before I visited a friend who was leaving for her hometown for couple of weeks. Since my son is friends with hers, I wanted him to bid goodbyes so he knows where his friend is whenever he expects to meet him.

Meanwhile, my friend was juggling with more than a dozen locks and keys for changing the locks, And my boy was watching her struggle. Since he has a habit of helping out at home, he offered his help to her even though she was almost through. “Aunty can I help you?” Another friend in attendance noticed this gesture and said not all kids offer help like this. I was like I don’t think this is extra ordinary, he is used to helping me at home.

Later I realised that he indeed said something so innocently out of his nature that I couldnt appreciate his concern at age 5. Yes kids generally don’t bother what elders are going through and for that matter an outsider! Well, I think this boy is turning out way better than his mom atleast and I wish I am right in thinking this.

May the simplicity continue till he is in real world.

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Life’s unseen trivias!

FOR Last four years, my husband has been telling me to start working again by settling down in a city with my son. Since he turned one, I am being given the so called freedom to settle down in a metro so that I can co tribute to family’s Income and so that we can also show off all the wealth that others do .

Its conveyed many a times that there is no stopping for you to kickstrt your career because kids are taken care of at creches and playgroups just about everywhere and in every household. 

I have always felt that the upbringing of your child cannot be the same if they are left with people lesser than the parents. The questions they ask, the curiosities that arise at this tender and formation age is something to be satisfied by a person of a better caliber. For a child every moment brings with it a learning. Waiting for a tired evening or a weekend will not give him or her what they deserve. Not to belittle the fact that parents are doing their best to provide the best that money can offer and to secure their and their children’s future.

Had I been staying on a metro, I would have joined the career race as soon as I could have got the chance to. Thank God for giving me this option to analyse life from the other side of the fence, and also that I just couldn’t climb up the fence and reach the other side. I do sometimes envy my friends who are doing so great in their career with flashy titles and supercool vacations that they can afford. At the same time I feel is it justified to leave the formation age to grow at the hands of not so informed and intellectually oriented caretakers. The way we can steer out kids minds, no one else can.

I feel it’s the next generation that we are building and it should be taught right about relationships, sympathy, compassion and importance of each other, the little things that build a good human being, and steer the individual towards his highest capabilities. I am confused whether getting back to work with him will make things better or worse for my son and his future 10 years down the line. I am helping him become a responsible Individual which is most possible when am there with him to answer the queries that arise in his mind all the time.

And then there are my aspirations, dreams and ambitions that still await to be fulfilled. Its a tough path to chose, a very hazy one at that!

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Losing a car!

Yesterday a nightmare came true…a tree simply fell on our car. Thankfully no one was inside or even around it.

Nature took some kind of revenge from us, a tree that I adored so very much fell just like that and crushed the rear half of my beloved vehicle.

A piece of my heart is definitely gone with it, hoping for it to comeback after repair.

When I went out of home to check the extent of damage, the only thought that came was we are safe, a thing that we depend on so much has gone but this is temporary. What is best is my family is intact. Touchwood. Thank God a million zillion times.

Its indeed a big financial set back and quite a bit an emotional one for me and more for my son who used to be super proud of his car, everyday atleast once he would praise it while on his way to school with me.

This tragedy or say incident just tight me what really truly matters for us. Car is replaceable, we will forget the pain very soon when we get this repaired or get a replacement.

I value my life much more today and that of every individual.

Pain of not having the vehicle are one too many, arranging alternative for son’s school transport, dependency on husband for every tiny requiremennts and then bearing his tantrums and favors, holding up son’s emotions while he eagerly waits for his darling car to be back.

In contrast to this, a fellow officer’s family went through a real nightmare when a truck hit their small vehicle and ran away.  In the ordeal, their daughter got a deep cut in the crown and they fear if glass pieces are still there or not. This happened at the same time as our car incident.

The pain of seeing your child in pain is comparable to none. The pain of imagining what could have happened when half of the car is smashed and still everyone is walking and talking is too big compared to what happened to a car that was parked and a tree fell.

We will come out of this pretty soon, but that family may need quite a bit of time. Beautiful part is, they are all fine. God bless them and all of us here.

In India, there is a saying – the one who is taken care of by God, cannot be hurt by anybody. “Jaako raakhe saaiyan, maar sake. Na koye”.

Wishing a good life for everyone.

God bless!

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Fuuny one linerss!!

Yesterday me n kid were playing hide n seek, had loads of fun.

I once hid and shocked him out of nowhere!! He was delightfully shocked and said “my tummy popped out, you scared me”.

I couldn’t stop laughing and still smiling at his upfront expression!! The purity of their thoughts is reflected in such moments!!

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Swimming – stress busting – confidence building

After having completely given up on learning to swim, I thought of giving it another try. There was no one to prove to, not even to myself. The only motivation was so Many ladies around in the pool who learnt it by YouTube and fellow swimmers.

I used to think its an eyewash, they definitely have a trick or two that they learnt without a real trainer on their head. I also thought that they are hiding some critical info on ‘how to swim’, something like a secret recipe to succeed.

Turned out that they did hide the most important point from me. The hard work, perseverance and sheer focus on oneself while failing thousand times before they were called a swimmer. In the last 2-3 weeks I have made deliberate attempts to really swim across at least half a lap.

I was blessed to have three ladies who are all elder to me by at least 10 years whom I met at different stages  of my trials and errors. One of them, the first one noticed that my legs were not moving how they should and she corrected me. I thought its easy for a champ swimmer like hers to tell me but I was not sure to really achieve it. I still tried hesitantly and bingo! It worked. That was day 1 of feeling ecstatic, and a tiny bit of confidence came that I am going somewhere with this.

Second was a much senior lady who told me to stop using the board as a support. She told me the trick of getting into water without support. I tried it and on my third trial I did it. Hats off to her.

Third was the lady who told me about hand movements but I couldn’t just bring them on. I was still swimming with just the flapping feet. Then came number one again and she reinforced what this lady was trying to tell me. I tried and it happened.

So finally over a period of one week, I was moving in water without support, flapping my feet and rowing with hands. All thanks to the women who thought I can do it, and they didn’t feel competitiveness in bringing me on right path. Hats off to these women.

I am improving my techniques each passing day. It makes me so happy and a feeling of achievement is always there even if it’s in my subconscious. My life had almost stopped improving but now this is the high, an energiser for the whole evening and whole of next day. The windfall gain is my controlled weight and am secretly hoping to lose some too ;)

The take away is not just this, I am also helping the new girls joining the pool who are just like I was 2/weeks back!

The bigger plus is my son is super happy that his mom has learnt swimming, we play games in the pool, fight and do so much bonding that I couldn’t have imagined had I skipped the one last trial to learn this.

Hope someone is inspired by this write up. Just Go for it!

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