Stay put!

Just when you think you are getting closer to achieving your dreams, there are bound to be endless challenges or one challenge so huge that will try its best to pull you down with all its might. The tendency of our hearts is to give into the temptation of fighting out the unimportant, petty stuff or people and distract from the focus that our life needs.

It is in these trying times when we have to stand with ourselves, give positive vibes and make sure that the negative energy doesn’t get the fodder to survive, however much it tries. Its the most difficult thing to do sometimes and that is when you need to understand that these challenges will be lost in transition, will be of least value one week/month/year down the line and then if we would have given up, we will be only left with regret that will be more painful than the challenges that are trying to pull us down.

I think such is life, longer in days and shorter in years as they say. So true! The tough exams in school days took much longer than the entire school life! This is a reminder to myself to continue the focused approach because some situations and the people involved don’t give up on pulling you down to their level and maybe further below! Stay strong , this too shall pass!

Am sure at some point everyone goes through times when they want to get invisible till its over. Alas! That cloak ain’t there in this world, the more we face it, the lesser difficult it becomes. In my case, I need to focus on the goal, rest of the things will automatically go in the faded background!

I wish the best to everyone who is facing a tough situation, you will come out a winner! Believe in yourself and believe in the power of goodness!

Ciao!

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A note to self!

I am trying to do something valuable for myself, something that can redefine my career and my life ahead, not just mine, of all those associated with me. Sometimes, in the hustle bustle of complicated emotions, we forget our path just when its the most important thing to be focused on.

So this is a reminder to myself of how much I have toiled to get to a point where I can make a substantial contribution to my self worth, but at this time I am also facing a lot of distractions which are here to stay. I have to make myself understand that these distractions are not what define my future, my focus on the right thing will. As they say, your thoughts become your action and hence your destiny, I have to take the right action now, stay focused on my work and stop thinking of all that is trying hard to stop me from achieving that I can. Atleast I can give it my best to achieve.

I have to keep reminding myself that nothing that’s distracting me right now will matter one year from now,  but what I must do, will define my life one year from now.

I am sure it happens with most of us to lose the focus, give up on the slightest hint of being a victim, as victimizing is the best way to sympathize with self and then all that remains is regret that I could have done better had I not focused on the unimportant stuff. It could be a disagreement at work or at home. All this passes on and the only thing lost or found is what we do with our time around these tiny moments of distress.

I have to bring back my focus to myself, as this focus affects much more than my present. One thing that helps me often is watching the motivational videos that just remind you what’s important and what’s not! Music too is so helpful to be where I am and shun all the background score that is bothering me. When we worry, it affects us and does nothing, moves nothing, its just us!

Let us not waste our precious little time on unimportant things and people, let us make ourselves important , be a little selfish, and succeed for the greater good around us. If that makes us stay positive and focused and achieve our bests, then yes that’s what is needed. Focus on oneself and be the best form of yourself.

May the force be with you and me!!!

Ciao!

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Option – B !

The other day I watched Sheryl Sandberg’s interview with Oprah Winfrey. The discussion was over Sandberg’s new book Option B, which is in news for quite sometime.

At first you feel this book is about dealing with bereavement, as Sheryl wrote this book as an aftermath of dealing with her husband’s untimely death. To a large extent, this seems to be the basis of the book. The interview threw some light on what the book really is about. Ofcourse it has suggestions on how to tackle bereavement in your life and in others, but it also is about having a plan B when plan A doesn’t work.

I believe this is a profound thought, though it has been there for ages, with the book its out in the open for discussion and for its cognizance. The discussion itself is so thought provoking, I wonder how useful the book must be.
Quite often we deal with situations where our initial plan doesn’t work, leaving us disheartened and longing for another chance at it. We do not think of a plan B and certainly not as positively as plan A.

I could think of so many instances in my life where I could have done better with an option other than what didn’t work, but that’s not something we desire and hence we leave it at that or suffer in silence or tend towards depression, depending on its impact on our systems. At the same time, its easier said than done, to go for another option. Be it a job, a love story, a thing or a person so loved. I am hopeful this book will change the perceptions a bit if not more!

As soon as I finish my current readings, I am going to order Option B. Here are the links to various books (from my bucket list) by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant which I find worth our time (and money)!
            

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Wonders of Space!

Last week I got this Space Encyclopedia: A Tour of Our Solar System and Beyond (National Geographic) for my son, its not just fascinating for him but for me too.

I was a bit sckeptical about the content and the high pricing, but it turned out to be just right and the price is only nominal considering the amazing updated content it has. Our vacations are going much more smoothly with the very consuming book that my son reads to himself and then keeps telling me about so many facts that the book has with very interesting illustrations.

We are almost half way through, and cant wait to finish it and then read it many times over to get a hang of so many concepts and facts!

Must buy for a smooth vacation…!!

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A deviated world!

Lately I am trying to get over with social media as much as I can. I deleted WhatsApp, Instagram, and twitter to get back to what really matters in my day to day life. To get back the focus that I had lost so gradually that I didn’t even realise I was a slave of my mobile, day in and day out, as many of us are.

My dependency on mobile has not reduced to a great extent, but it has helped me prioritise what I see, what I respond to and what I dwell into. Facebook is still something I haven’t been able to rescue myself from, but then we do need a little connection with the world to entertain ourselves, if nothing else. Not to say these media are useless, they are of immense help to small businesses, to actors and promising actors and to students who wouldn’t really invest their time in studies, social media’s existence is only an escape route.

So I have become this recluse kind of a person who is too lazy to even wish just about everyone on their birthdays on fb. I am sure wishes on my bday will also come down drastically! But now it seems very childish to wish a person whom I haven’t spoken in ages and have no intention of making any effort to meet and greet! I do still like pics and leave a comment or two. But restraining myself from any sort of indulgence that will require a second look at the notifications. Fewer the better.

Staying away from WhatsApp seemed tough before I delted it altogether. But I sailed through it. My family and close friends sailed through and helped me get back my focus. I am so thankful to them that instead of pushing me away, they accepted the fact that I am more difficult to reach than almost everyone on this earth. Now a days a phone call even from family members happens over WhatsApp, so I am actually pretty happy that this dependency is over. Now we call for real, I feel responsible for calling them , previously messages were sufficient. I mail my family the photos of my son every now and then to keep the grandparents informed of their grandchild, and it feels special.

I totally recommend deleting the app for a bit and breathe in the fresh air of fewer notifications, more family and more you!

Ciao!

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Heart in throat! Now I know!

A heavy day!!

Of Cuddles and Cries

Just when you think the toughest part of bringing up your child is over, God sends a small reminder, hold on! You have a long way to go!

Today, a normal sunday morning, turned out to be more happening than ever with the discovery of my son’s permanent tooth growing from below the milk tooth (decayed and still holding strong!) To our horror, it had to be removed asap! Being quite new to the place and never having consulted a pedia-dentist here, we were at our wits end. Fortunate to have a few friends who more worthy for such a situation.

Tad came the suggestion that the decayed tooth needs to be removed, hmm! I couldn’t imagine the pain my  little sweetheart would have to go through to make the dental situation acceptable. Nevertheless, we cannot waste much time when the tooth grows without any warning and its hanging like a…

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Financial Bullying!

6 years back My friend had a well paying job when She could splurge on her husband and of course on their families. She never thought twice before buying gifts for loved ones because She didn’t know any other way. She believed that we are young so our buying capacities are only going to increase with time.

Then She decided to quit her job to be with hubby and her world turned turtle. Slowly She realised he didn’t want to give her any money for any spending and she also didn’t mind using up most of her savings in the next 5 years. Last year She realised she wasn’t left with much if one day she needed money for an emergency. When she asked him to start giving money every month, he panicked and couldn’t oblige. All his savings are in his name and she has few saved up in government savings, all from the days she was earning.

he never cared where the toys and expensive clothes and other stuff is coming for his own child, as long as it’s not his bank balance that is getting disturbed. After such a long period of bullying into not asking for money for the fear of giving an account of her spendings, she is scared deep in her conscience to even mention her requirements. Whenever she has, she met with resentment and lot of bull shit. Her confidence on herself is gone down drastically. She cannot buy stuff for her parents, who showered her husband with many gifts during and after marriage.

A girl who never saw adversity is facing the worst even when her husband is earning well enough to keep her light shining. She realised this when she saw the ladies around her who keep shopping for new dresses, new artefacts for their houses and also go for frequent outings with their friends and husband. This friend doesn’t get to go on dinner dates or a general outing for a coffee. Every expensive toy is seen with an auditing eye but thankfully the rationing isn’t much for the child.

Now she is gearing up for a new phase in her life, and I really wish she succeeds and he can realise he lost a gem because all he bothered about was money.

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