the mighty summer vacations (activity pics inside)!!

Originally posted on Of Cuddles and Cries:

My son’s summer vacations started about 3 weeks back. In the midst of packing up the house and moving to a new location, keeping him busy was of utmost importance.

Every morning he would wake up and laze around and then tell me mumma there is nothing to do!

He doesn’t seem to notice then hundreds of toys lying in his toy room, the several kinds of colours waiting to be used, the skates, scooter and the drawing books. Everything looked boring to him.

Thanks to facebook, whatsapp and the know it all internet its easy to Get engrossed in theseajd.let the child watch TV or videos.

As a SAHM the responsibility is manifolds because of your own high expectations out of your lil child and also to prove it to the hubby who does not leaveany opportunity to comment on how your child has been groomed at home, no…

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surrendering to wisdom!!

When we are kids, we dream of becoming our parents with the notion that we will know it all just like them and no one will ever tell us what to do.  We will be the only masters around and be the ruler of our lives (at least).

Back to present and we know that most of what we thought was a beautiful illusion that is better left at that for that age or the entire growing up phase until you realise that not one but several factors control our lives.

Of course we can steer our destiny with the right decisions and right circumstances, nevertheless there will be moments when all we need is wisdom that can show UA the light at the end of the tunnel. We seek that wisdom all around and many a times undermine the fact that it could be lying closer than we thought.

Our family, especially parents who have nothing to win or lose from us, they have seen life’s toughest battles and know that phases pass if we keep patience and stay calm in seemingly worst situations.

The key to obtaining such wisdom is listening with an open mind and not just ears. At the same time we should not stop ourselves from analyzing the pros and cons of applying the suggestions that we get from them. There can be a few errors because of the information and scenarios presented to get opinions from others. We aometimes are not absolutely truthful in complaining, we are biased. The only one who knows this is our selves.

So before acting on the suggestions we should really understand the deeper consequences which should be positive for your largerlife picture.

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looking for answers!!

I read self help inspirational books to get some hints on how to deal with life on a daily basis.

Sometimes you just don’t get answer to the questions that life throws. It gets extremely difficult,annoying, and hard to bear that we do not know where to go. What to do.

Talking to friends helps and calms most of us a great deal. But until we do not find a purpose and goal in life, the entangled life will get worse.

I discovered this great wisdom (surely for me) that when we have a larger purpose to fulfill, the trivial things that keep bothering us do not matter that much anymore. When you are directing energies in a positive direction, and season your mind to stop thinking of the people and things that hinder your growth, you feel fresh and awakened.

All this takes time but gradually you do come out of the victimised state of mind to a creator’s mindset. Your thoughts start going towards things that can make you live better when your set goal makes you most happy.

Reading books by people like Sir Richard Brason, Robin Sharma and the likes, you understand that success is achieved by your own determinations and the power you are born with. People around us try to pull us down with every opportunity as if that is the goal of their lives. When we get distracted and sad we help them fulfill the same and belittle ourselves.

In my experience and the wisdom I gained from talking to my lovely friends, reading the extremely positive and motivating books, one should stop feeding their hunger of making us vulnerable. Rather, we should create our own hunger of success to achieve what we have always wanted to – for the kids, family and ourselvea , work towards it whole heartedly, then see the results. Enjoi them as an audience and create more happiness.

As they say nothing succeeds like success, everything else will fall in place.

Its easier said than done, buy not impossible.  Let’s make ourselves happy with the vow to achieve our deep rooted dreams of making this world and our world a better place.

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A new beginning awaits!

our tenure in this location gets over in less than ten days and we shall move with bag and baggage to a new place. It will be the biggest change for my son who has fallen deeply in love with his current house. Cries in the name of packing up his toy-room and wishes to get the same huge garden in the new city. He also vowed never to move to a new school, guess he is too innocent to understand the concept of moving completely to a new place and then a new school too or he has not liked the concept of switching schools when he moved here.

all said and done, it’s an emotional shifting that takes place, his play area, friends, pool, garden, school everything will be new. For me too another new place and new set of people to deal with, besides taking care of the already difficult set of them in life ;)

looking forward to joining a paid job along with the unpaid one of being the full time mom. Hope to regain the lost importance around home, and get a little more when people can feel the absence. Mind is super fast in wandering! First I need to land in a job which I don’t see happening anytime soon, as much as I want it!

Overall we had a blessed stay in this lovely positive home and hope to get the next one too in a positive surrounding, something we can’t really decide since it’s allocated by husband’s Employer. On a side note, so much to put up with for an army officer’s family and they still don’t get the best of packages in the country! Huh!

Anyhow, enjoying the last few days in this station, packing in the first half, swimming in the evening! Love the mom-son time we get in the pool, best part is he has learnt to swim under my supervision…another milestone to my credit ;) something only he can value and no one else.

ciao people!

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My lil boy swims!!

they say best things happen when you expect the least or words to that effect!

we started this season’s swimming yesterday, me and my son. I had least expectations of him giving it a try because one he has a fear of sinking and two he loves his comfort zone of hanging on to the railing in the pool!

Alas! I was proven wrong as he took inspiration from the many friends he has mad!e recently and seeing all of them swimming all around changed his perceptions i a bit. He tried, we tried and we succeeded. At least took the first step today in swimming like a cute turtle :) I don’t think I will ever forget the sight of him doing that cute step on his own and the thrill that I felt when he achieved it.

I too don’t know how to swim so i couldn’t be a good inspiration for him (he doesn’t know this). Thanks to the people around for telling me that he will learn eventually and somewhere I kept the hope alive. Kept trying to challenge his comfort zone, along came his friends and gave me this day to remember forever.

Another milestone reached by my big 4 year old!!!

God bless!!

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Mumma why can you see everywhere!

That’s my son’s pet question these days!

And he isn’t happy with my hundred eyes following naughty steps of his! Be him not wearing his clogs, or putting colors everywhere but the right place, or sneaking away with something he shouldn’t!

Just love when he says this beautifully and wins my heart all over again!

In the last three weeks, his antics have gone from 50 to 100 in a day! My hundred eyes are falling short of keeping a tab on his curiosities and adventures! My everyday watch is the first casualty….hoping it’s the last!

:)

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Labelling a child!

Labelling so far is a favourite pass-time of human race. Adam and Eve must have started with labelling trees for the sake of recognition of those and the trend continued till today and forever. The difference is that trait has taken over us and we leave nothing at all un-labeled.

Especially of the things and people who cannot really counter discuss your opinions. Behind the back and on the face, it goes on. Well, that’s the fun part of the blessed tongue.

What bothers me is how we start judging a baby right from the day it arrives in your abdomen. Well, that’s on the  lighter side. It becomes a problem when a baby is growing and depending on his or her moods, interacts or gets cut off from the people around. The only comfort zone being the home, and parents. Some kids open real fast, some take time. At every stage of their growth.

Should we start labelling them, making them feel conscious of who they are or respect their feelings at that moment?

What in general happens is people around send a message to parents, oh! Your child is reserved. He doesn’t interact. He doesn’t like company! And so on and so forth.

Yes, I am talking from my own experience. I wonder if human race was born to be alone…they were born to interact, to communicate, to experiment things. Everyone does, just the timing and atmosphere differs in which they are comfortable expressing their selves.

I am thankful for such ‘judgemental and social’ people around, they just made me more conscious of how I understand others’ kids and respect their attitude in life.

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