What is the struggle about?

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Being a social animal has its advantages and disadvantages. Advantages are many and cannot be listed here, so let me go to one disadvantage that we face day in and day out.

Thinking of people and their views about ourselves. Isn’t this we do atleast for the 95% of the time that we are not sleeping. Now thinking about what others think about us is fine until the point that it doesn’t take away the simple happiness and peace from the day. When we start thinking deeper and deeper into people’s motives behind what they say and do, that’s when we interfere with our own peace.

in the book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, there is a chapter similar to ‘Will it matter an year from now”. Whenever I start dwelling into things too much, this lesson reminds me to get back to senses – most of the times…

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Why worry?

We worry a lot! Don’t we?

we worry as if our life is never going to end or as if this is the end of our life! Either ways, we only waste our precious time when our focus should be on the more productive things. After an exhaustive episode of worries that may last for days at end, I feel defeated by myself.

i think we cheat ourselves when we take life for granted when something unpleasant becomes so important that it takes up 90% of our thought process. If we find a solution, it’s absolutely worth the effort, but if we know there is no solution to certain issues and certain people problems, we should put it to rest and move on to better and more beautiful things.

It’s like holding up a heavy glass of water in hand even while we are asleep, but our focus is on the glass which should not spill! So we lose our sleep, focus, happiness and peace for that glass of water which is happy in its place and has nothing to do with us. We give it so much importance that it becomes centre of living, thus a simple unimportant thing takes over and we get carried away in the process.

let us start worrying a little less, start living a little more. Every moment is precious and will not come back to us. Let us make it positive. It can be difficult but not impossible!

thanks! Take care!

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How kids learn!

Surabhi:

Some thoughts on how kids learn!

Originally posted on Of Cuddles and Cries:

Learning is a continuous process for all living beings. When we are kids, we learnt to the best of our capability. Be it the good or the bad things. We learn them just how we are taught directly or indirectly.

having a child makes you realise how beautiful it must have been even for us to be absolutely carefree, masters of all around and the centre of attraction in any and every gathering. Atleast the first born is always in the last two categories.

well, as the baby grows into a child, parents realise that each and every action has been an inspiration to their offspring. And they are particularly fast in grasping the wrong ideas or words that we invariably spell out in a moment of heat/happiness. The f word, or the hell word. It’s all out there for them to learn. You forget as soon as you say…

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The trivial questions in life!

Today I just had a cursory look at my son and it reminded me how he looks exactly what he looked as an infant. Then people used to tell me he looks like me, and now they say he looks like his dad! I am happy with both the situations, although my hubby is on the better side ;)

So true!!

What disturbs or tickles me is how people are so worried about whom a baby/child looks like, seriously! is it so important?? Have you ever wondered whom does Obama or Bill Gates look like? Mom, Dad or grandparents?? Or is this the basis of taking big decisions where humans are involved? Quite often I have seen parents and grandparents too worried about the looks of their child! For what reason? What kind of attributes are you passing on to that child? eventually s/he will also accept the fact that facial features are more important than grace, dignity and generosity.

Ok, looks impress for the first instance that we see someone. And then it may not. What really matters is how that good or average looking person behaves with his peers, juniors, seniors, family and friends and for that matter with anybody that s/he meets. Do we forgive a beauty queen for a crime, or do we punish an average looking one for a good deed? There is no copyright issue here.

We need to move on and stop worrying and fretting over such trivial issues that help no one. Looks cannot be changed, positive attitude can be developed, qualities can be nurtured, education can be provided, talent can be honed. Looks change for the super rich and that percentage is really low in our society. The rich and the middle class are busy earning and saving money for a better future and they take pride in a happy family and social life. So let us (the rich and middle class) focus on what will grow us a beautiful society with compassionate individuals.

Looks don’t matter!!! What say?

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The Career Mom!

Originally posted on Of Cuddles and Cries:

MotherHood!!

MotherHood!!

Isn’t the above quote true to the T!!!

Many of the mothers reading this blog out there might be the professionally qualified ones with a career aspiration of their own. However, once the baby arrives within you, you start wondering about what next in my plan of things. how will i retain my identity if i leave my job for the little one, how will i ask for money favors from my husband for little things that I have myself taken care of, and more!

Well, I have gone through all of this and there is never an answer which fits the square hole completely. From some corners of society you will be looked upto and from some you will be terribly looked down upon for being the new “HOUSEWIFE” on the block. We need to understand if these people really matter to you and your’s child’s future. It…

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Have you, the mother, weaned?!!?

Originally posted on Of Cuddles and Cries:

Well, yes my question is very much in place! We the mothers never happen to really get weaned off our children, even when grand grand kids are playing around!

I truly happened to think on these lines when i saw this amazing movie “How does she do it” starring Sarah Jessica Parker. She has played the quintessential career mom to the T! If you have not watched it, go watch it today and you will get a sigh of relief that what you are doing day in and day out is getting some recognition there.

In a particular scene, the lady is in tears because she is torn between work related traveling and leaving her kids back with the daddy. the sentiments are so beautifully portrayed that you can relate to it instantly, no need to be a career mom for this :)

A Mother

We all go through this on a…

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And the cute advices…

I wrote about worries my little one has.

Yesterday when I was going to visit my dentist, I was told by my son to be careful, don’t touch the tools of the doctor, they are dangerous :)

what a lovely, caring thought!

 

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